I'm pretty sure most everyone has hurt someone's feelings at some point in life. It's just part of being human and the reality that it's impossible to get everyone to like you.
You need to learn to not sulk on shit like that, and come to terms no one cares about it as much as you do when you get to that level of self-pity. There's usually a high chance the person you believed you "hurt" wasn't even affected in any significant manner in the first place and they're living their best life. As you can see by most of the responses in this thread, most of the stories that have been shared so far have the same conclusion that perceptions of guilt were never as bad as they seemed when closure was made.
On the other end, don't fall victim to gaslighting. Sometimes the people you may believe you "hurt" are actually the assholes and they're just manipulating you into feeling horrible. Analyze one's character closely, and sometimes you'll realize the person carries anger and resentment with them everywhere they go, and they do whatever it takes to make everyone else feel bad as a means to avoid their own accountability. There are narcissists like this in the world, and if they ever target you just know they don't deserve your guilt.
If you ever make a mistake, own up to your humility, learn from it and move on. Sulking on things will do you no good.
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