I wouldn't say I suffer from instability, at least in the sense that I am close to breaking provided certain stressors exist. I tend to handle stress quite well.
I'm more just constantly, mildly depressed and anxious and self-conscious.
I am really fond of people, I just struggle with being myself around them--and it can be really draining.
I'm lucky enough to work with many I consider my friends and just seeing them at my job is enough. I don't really miss people when I'm not around them, in other words. Though I do feel obligated to work on our friendships and maintain them better than I do.
@nirgal said:
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Are you very emotionally stable ? Do you struggle with this problem ? And do you have any tools, mindsets or habits that help you out ?
Gratitude is key for me. Not just for happiness, but for success. One of the common factors for successful, happy people is gratitude. And I don't mean being thankful for the big stuff, I'm talking constant a regular thanks, praise, and worship (not religiously, just...acknowledgement) for things like waking up refreshed. A warm shower on a cold day. Going to bed knowing you can sleep in. A hug from your niece. A pretty sunrise. A nice encounter with another person. A job well done. A compliment, or complimenting another. Training a coworker. Teaching a friend something.
Just constantly express gratitude and you will rewire your brain to naturally gravitate towards a more positive mental state.
Also, and it's cliche at this point, but HEALTHY BODY = HEALTHY MIND! Just get moving. You don't even need to really do anything so long as you just make a point to eat somewhat healthy--and I don't mean health food, just, you know...a well-balanced diet of mostly vegetables and wholesome protein--and do some exercise every day like weights or walking or swimming.
Finally, breathing exercises for when you do sense a break coming on, or are in stressful situations. I used to do the whole in for five seconds, hold for five seconds, out for five seconds but that can be a little hard to do on the spot.
Now what I do is two quick puffs in and long exhale. This is actually the bodies unconscious response to really stressful situations, but you can do it consciously to great effect. It's seriously surprising just how well it works. And if it doesn't, then do some actually meditative breathing like I said earlier. I like to imagine myself at the beach, the long breath in the wave breaking on the beach, a long hold, then the long breath out being the sound of the water receding and building up again.
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