Bro, it's a sign of Karamat. You've become so selfless, that you're no longer even aware of your own alleged narcissism. Sorry to break it you but you can't do anything about that aura and it's going to stay with you as a testament to your Karamat.
But on a more realistic note, I was once that type of person myself. Back when I was the "smartest" person in my school (not that I asked for it or that it was a feat, just an average school with an above-average guy, me, in it) I looked like a complete narcissist. And kind of like you, I strived to be best at everything. I wasn't really a genius when it came to soccer, (even though I still excelled at my favorite sport, swimming) so I trained every weekend with a crappy ball, did a lot of sprints and stuff, with the aim of becoming better than our school's best player. And I kind of did. The thing that really helped me was my stamina because all other people around me were still kids while I was becoming an adult (final years of middle school). Now however? I don't give a damn about soccer. It's my most despised sport probably. Not to mention the injuries. Two things to learn from this story. Firstly, what was the point of what I did? I became good (in reality, again, only above-average) at something I didn't enjoy in the first place just to prove it to myself. Well I mean I was only a kid back then. Secondly, and most importantly, I wasn't focused with my life (not that I am now but things are looking a tad better relatively). So that's something I wanted to address before I explained what I did next.
I changed. I completely revoked my personality. I think I might have even been an introvert back then. Not that I hated my school or friends. I just wanted to have more me time even when at school or with friends. Now? Not so much. I would much rather be in crowded places and stuff, more active places. But not everyone needs to change.
So here's my advice. Try to smile in conversations whenever appropriate. That really helps. Then, try to act a little dumb, as if you're not in full control or fully aware of your surroundings. Like, when someone asks about that really hard trick you pulled off or that really hard math question you solved, act as if it was by accident, something you didn't quite intend or understand but eventually managed to pull off. But be professional about it. Don't make them realize you're doing it to sort of shatter that aura. Smiling and laughing it out, really helps in this regard. Or sometimes, the exact opposite, meaning expressing discontent at your own doings even though you know you did well. Imagine a scenario where I turned in an assignment that no one else had turned in. I would express discontent at my own work by saying something like “This was a waste of time. I completely wasted my time finishing this assignment. I could have done something better with my time instead.” But Imagine if I were all like “Yeah, I turned it in. It was hard but I did it.” That just doesn’t work very well. Act dumb and silly when necessary is what I’m saying. People can’t handle “facts” and “statements” very well. Socializing isn’t about “statements”. It’s about talking shit and moving on.
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